Prayer as the Way of Jesus
This is a message was given to the New Westminster Free Methodist Church on June 4th. The Scripture passage used was Matthew 6:9-13.
What to do When New Facts Come In
“Conditions change. New facts come in. Circumstances arise. If you can’t adapt to them — if you simply proceed onward, unable to adjust according to this additional information — you are no better than a robot. The point is not to have an iron will, but an adaptable will — a will that makes full […]
Better to Mourn Your Losses Than to Deny Them
Better to mourn your losses than to deny them. Dare to feel your losses. Dare to grieve them. Name the pain and say, “Yes, I feel real pain, real fear, real loss; and I am going to embrace it. I will take up the cross of my life, and accept it.” To grieve is to […]
Three Powerful Choices for Storm Readiness
How well prepared are you for your next storm? Why care? Because the stats show that everyone will experience 6-8 traumatic events in their life time. Some people are better prepared than others. As I look back on two of the major storms I’ve in my life (the motorcycle accident in 2011 and Vicky’s death […]
The Place and Power of Stillness
Stillness is a word and practice I have become very fond of the last several months. While reviewing some journal entries I made during my grief journey in 2020, I found some reflections that illustrate the impact stillness had in my life. My hope in sharing them here is that the words will inspire you […]
Grief is the Price We Pay for Love
“Grief is the price we pay for love.” — Spoken by Queen Elizabeth II after saying goodbye to Prince Philip after 73 years of marriage.* Have you ever wondered what it would be like to live a life without grief? It would be like the person who said, “If only I didn’t have to face […]
Have You Witnessed the Five Faces of Loss?
Have you had any losses lately? As I look around me, I see the faces of loss everywhere. Not all loss is created equal but to some degree, all loss needs to be noticed and processed. In this article, I want to share these five faces of loss to help you both notice the losses […]
Ten Resiliency Practices When Dealing With Loss – part 3
Resiliency is defined as: “an ability to recover from or adjust easily to adversity or change.” I’m not sure about the “easily” part but I have witnessed how resiliency is an ability you can develop with intentional practice, patience and hard work. Below are the remaining four resiliency practices that will increase your capacity to […]
Ten Resiliency Practices When Dealing With Loss – Part 2
What loss comes to mind that you could apply resiliency to? There are so many types of losses. Just a few losses include: the loss of a close friend or family member, loss of a life partner, loss of health, divorce, unresolved conflict, empty nest, loss of mobility, loss of a job, loss of physical […]
Ten Resiliency Practices When Dealing With Loss – part 1
Fourteen months has now passed since my wife Vicky breathed her last after a short battle with kidney cancer. We became aware that the back pain Vicky had from the beginning of 2020 was in fact kidney cancer. That news hit us hard in March of 2020 and her death hit me even harder when […]