He who knows the universe and does not know himself knows nothing. Jean De La Fontaine Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Tao Te Ching Your ability to “hope for the best and dance with the rest” becomes more likely when you take the time and trouble to know yourself emotionally. The […]
Expectations can be our friend but unfortunately they can also be our worst nightmare. The challenge is to dance with expectations so they remain reasonably realistic yet filled with promise. How exactly do you do that? The two ditches you fall into: 1) No expectations. Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be […]
If you look up “hope” in the dictionary you will discover two parts to the definition: a) “desire or expectation” for something in the future to occur; and b) “grounds for believing” something in the future will occur. You run into trouble when you have one without the other. When you have “desire without any grounds” you […]
“Good grief” sounds like an oxymoron – two contrasting ideas that don’t seem to fit together. But when we look deeper, grief is a process we enter into when we experience a loss in our lives so it makes sense to make it as “good” or “beneficial” as possible. Grief is: “keen mental suffering or […]
The other day I saw a hitchhiker with the sign “Anywhere but Here!” I couldn’t help but thinking, “What or who are they running away from?” To want to be “Anywhere but Here” has certainly crossed my mind during this season of suffering and recovery! It’s like the person who decides, “The grass is greener […]
Healing is not quick or easy. It involves facing brokenness head on and pressing through the stiffness and soreness of body and spirit to find a new place of wholeness. Where does brokenness come from? There are three sources: Your own stupidity Good work you’ve done The mistakes or evil of another We all know what […]
When it comes to change, no one motivates you to change (long term) except you. Your mother can’t, your spouse can’t, your doctor can’t, your boss can’t, not even your coach or therapist can. There are however influencers that can increase urgency for change. Those influencers are like a thermostat that triggers a change in […]
“People change when they hurt enough that they have to, learn enough that they want to, or receive enough that they are able to.” John Maxwell People change for a variety of reasons. Sometimes the face of change looks stressed (“My body will never be the same again!”) while other times the face of change […]